So I figured this would be the easiest way to get the news to some of my closest friends and family. I have a new boyfriend. LoL, it may not sound like the biggest story of the year, but for me it is :) He's wonderful and I can't wait for you all to meet him! Here's a quick run-down of the facts ;)
His name is Dave and he is 25 years old. He has beautiful brown eyes and dark hair.
We met at a coffeehouse on Saturday and ended up talking for 4.5 hours.
He works as a social worker/case manager/house manager for a group home, for a company in Portland.
He's originally from Delaware and then moved to Indiana to attend Indiana Wesleyan University where he was an RA and graduated in 4 years with his BS in Psychology.
His brother moved out to Oregon and when Dave came to visit he fell in love with the area and moved out here, too.
He plays bass in his church's worship band and occasionally fills in with a lesson when his pastor is out of town.
He makes me laugh all the time because we have the exact same sense of humor and the same random way of tracking and changing subjects mid-conversation.
We both have Inner-Geeks and think it's adorable when the other's IG comes out and plays.
Long story short, he's amazing! :) Who want's to meet him first?
♥
Friday, February 19, 2010
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Slightly offended
I was watching Rachel Ray today while I was working out, (a show I normally don't have a problem with), but one of the audience Q&A participants asked a great question and I was horrified by the response from the host and co-host.
She stood up and basically said, "Well, due to some problems I've had in the past, I've decided to start saving myself for marriage from now on. *mixed applause* My problem is, when I tell guys I'm getting to know about this, they either think it's a joke or I'm just making them work for it. How can I get them to take me seriously? Because I am."
The hosts, at first, were supportive of this idea, "Well good for you!" But soon they started laughing and were like, "Yeah, I can see how that would be a problem. No guy is going to just believe that off the bat. I mean, good for you by waiting to see if they're really invested, if they really care about you than they should wait for you."
And then things went downhill, "But maybe you two should watch '40 Year Old Virgin' and, like they do the whole 20 date thing, maybe you could do that. Like after 20 dates or after 3 months, you two could *innuendo eyebrows* you know. Then you'd know that they were actually invested in you. But after like a few months, you know, to give them light at the end of the tunnel." *laughter* "Yeah, give them a little something to look forward to."
That was the end of that Q&A.
Seriously?! I felt like they were saying that if a guy hangs around long enough, regardless of the emotions, you should sleep with him because he's earned it. WTH? Something just struck me wrong about this conversation on a 'preparations for Valentine's day' episode of a daytime talk show. A guy should be able to earn sex- or a girl should be able to, for that matter. Personally, I feel like sex is something to be shared, not earned by one party from another. What is this world coming to? Plus, is it only about sex? Shouldn't there be more to look forward to in a relationship than sex? Don't get me wrong, I think that it's a very important part of a loving marriage. But there needs to be more than that... right? Maybe I'm just ignorant about this. I hold no claims as to the knowledge of married life or even dating-with-sex life. I guess it's just my humble opinion; take it as you will.
She stood up and basically said, "Well, due to some problems I've had in the past, I've decided to start saving myself for marriage from now on. *mixed applause* My problem is, when I tell guys I'm getting to know about this, they either think it's a joke or I'm just making them work for it. How can I get them to take me seriously? Because I am."
The hosts, at first, were supportive of this idea, "Well good for you!" But soon they started laughing and were like, "Yeah, I can see how that would be a problem. No guy is going to just believe that off the bat. I mean, good for you by waiting to see if they're really invested, if they really care about you than they should wait for you."
And then things went downhill, "But maybe you two should watch '40 Year Old Virgin' and, like they do the whole 20 date thing, maybe you could do that. Like after 20 dates or after 3 months, you two could *innuendo eyebrows* you know. Then you'd know that they were actually invested in you. But after like a few months, you know, to give them light at the end of the tunnel." *laughter* "Yeah, give them a little something to look forward to."
That was the end of that Q&A.
Seriously?! I felt like they were saying that if a guy hangs around long enough, regardless of the emotions, you should sleep with him because he's earned it. WTH? Something just struck me wrong about this conversation on a 'preparations for Valentine's day' episode of a daytime talk show. A guy should be able to earn sex- or a girl should be able to, for that matter. Personally, I feel like sex is something to be shared, not earned by one party from another. What is this world coming to? Plus, is it only about sex? Shouldn't there be more to look forward to in a relationship than sex? Don't get me wrong, I think that it's a very important part of a loving marriage. But there needs to be more than that... right? Maybe I'm just ignorant about this. I hold no claims as to the knowledge of married life or even dating-with-sex life. I guess it's just my humble opinion; take it as you will.
Tuesday, February 9, 2010
Just thought I'd share...
So my devotional today really touched my heart and it made me so happy I just wanted to share it with all of you. Here it is:
Are You Exhausted Spiritually?
Exhaustion means that our vital energies are completely worn out and spent. Spiritual exhaustion is never the result of sin, but of service. Whether or not you experience exhaustion will depend on where you get your supplies. Jesus said to Peter, "Feed My sheep," but He gave him nothing with which to feed them (John 21:17). The process of being made broken bread and poured-out wine means that you have to be the nourishment for other people's souls until they learn to feed on God. They must drain you completely- to the very last drop. But be careful to replenish your supply, or you will quickly be utterly exhausted. Until others learn to draw on the life of the Lord Jesus directly, they will have to draw on His life through you. You must literally be their source of supply, until they learn to take their nourishment from God. We owe it to God to be our best for His lambs and sheep, as well as for Him. Have you delivered yourself over to exhaustion because of the way you have been serving God? If so, then renew and rekindle your desires and affections. Examine your reasons for service. Is your source based on your own understanding or is it grounded on the redemption of Jesus Christ? Continually look back to the foundation of your love and affection and remember where your Source of power lies. You have no right to complain, "O Lord, I am so exhausted." He saved and sanctified you to exhaust you. Be exhausted for God, but remember that He is your supply. "All my springs are in you" (Psalm 87:7).
The verse on the side was: The everlasting God...neither faints nor is weary. Isiah 40:28.
This reminds me to work harder and harder for my clients in order to show them God's love through me. For some of my clients, I am the most stabilizing force they have ever known and we only meet for an hour a week. (That is meant compassionately, not arrogantly.) I am their window to a better world where someone cares about them and is actively invested in seeing them improve. And it takes a lot of emotional and mental strength to sit there with them and contain their chaos and try to help them make sense of it. But I love it. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is what He has called me to do. So exhaustion is something I should view more as a reward than as failure on my part. I'm tired because I'm working hard to serve, not because I am bad at my job or am 'just a student'. I welcome exhaustion- bring it!
I ♥ my life. And I ♥ you :)
Are You Exhausted Spiritually?
Exhaustion means that our vital energies are completely worn out and spent. Spiritual exhaustion is never the result of sin, but of service. Whether or not you experience exhaustion will depend on where you get your supplies. Jesus said to Peter, "Feed My sheep," but He gave him nothing with which to feed them (John 21:17). The process of being made broken bread and poured-out wine means that you have to be the nourishment for other people's souls until they learn to feed on God. They must drain you completely- to the very last drop. But be careful to replenish your supply, or you will quickly be utterly exhausted. Until others learn to draw on the life of the Lord Jesus directly, they will have to draw on His life through you. You must literally be their source of supply, until they learn to take their nourishment from God. We owe it to God to be our best for His lambs and sheep, as well as for Him. Have you delivered yourself over to exhaustion because of the way you have been serving God? If so, then renew and rekindle your desires and affections. Examine your reasons for service. Is your source based on your own understanding or is it grounded on the redemption of Jesus Christ? Continually look back to the foundation of your love and affection and remember where your Source of power lies. You have no right to complain, "O Lord, I am so exhausted." He saved and sanctified you to exhaust you. Be exhausted for God, but remember that He is your supply. "All my springs are in you" (Psalm 87:7).
The verse on the side was: The everlasting God...neither faints nor is weary. Isiah 40:28.
This reminds me to work harder and harder for my clients in order to show them God's love through me. For some of my clients, I am the most stabilizing force they have ever known and we only meet for an hour a week. (That is meant compassionately, not arrogantly.) I am their window to a better world where someone cares about them and is actively invested in seeing them improve. And it takes a lot of emotional and mental strength to sit there with them and contain their chaos and try to help them make sense of it. But I love it. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is what He has called me to do. So exhaustion is something I should view more as a reward than as failure on my part. I'm tired because I'm working hard to serve, not because I am bad at my job or am 'just a student'. I welcome exhaustion- bring it!
I ♥ my life. And I ♥ you :)
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
Dissy and Lisi
So this one is just kind of a brief update on my life- exciting stuff ;) I know, LoL!
Well today I handed in the first draft of my dissertation for preliminary board review. Let me explain this. It's not my full dissy. It's just the abstract and introduction and methods which are built upon a mix of already existent data & what my research is going to look at & how I'll contribute to the psych world, an explanation of the available research literature, and how my experiment is going to be run, respectively. Yup, 3 sections that took 12 pages to go through. But I completed all of the research for it and wrote it in only two weeks so I'm pretty stinking proud of myself! It was extremely time consuming but it's done :) Yay! And now I don't have to think about it for another week and a half while my RVT prof is going through it. Then it'll be back to the grindstone with it because trust me, this is a really rough draft. But I worked hard and handed it in and now I feel great!
I've also been pretty busy with neuropsych assessment and learning the new assessments and having my competency trials and learning how to interpret them and reading the massive amounts of required readings each week. I love this class so much but I'm not a big fan of the reading load, LoL! I keep reminding myself that it'll all be worth it when I know what I'm doing at next year's practicum site in regards to neuropsych testing of clients...
Which brings me to my next point. We're all starting to plan for our practicum sites next year and I'm looking at a medical site to round out my CV (the crazy resume/curriculum vita for internship applications). So I'll be sending in applications and having interviews here this month and into next month. Good thing all of my fancy pants and snazzy tops are dry cleaned or washed and pressed ;)
And I'm actually keeping up with my Life is Simple binder- or Lisi, as I call her. It may sound silly but I feel like giving her a name has made her more friendly and less scary or demanding. I adore her :) and I'm learning new ways to utilize her. I add and subtract things that she carries for me, I add little decorations and pretties to her, and I keep her close by almost all the time.
So that's where I am right now. Trying to keep up with school and friends and family. Tomorrow night is Friendly Dinner :D I can't wait!
Well today I handed in the first draft of my dissertation for preliminary board review. Let me explain this. It's not my full dissy. It's just the abstract and introduction and methods which are built upon a mix of already existent data & what my research is going to look at & how I'll contribute to the psych world, an explanation of the available research literature, and how my experiment is going to be run, respectively. Yup, 3 sections that took 12 pages to go through. But I completed all of the research for it and wrote it in only two weeks so I'm pretty stinking proud of myself! It was extremely time consuming but it's done :) Yay! And now I don't have to think about it for another week and a half while my RVT prof is going through it. Then it'll be back to the grindstone with it because trust me, this is a really rough draft. But I worked hard and handed it in and now I feel great!
I've also been pretty busy with neuropsych assessment and learning the new assessments and having my competency trials and learning how to interpret them and reading the massive amounts of required readings each week. I love this class so much but I'm not a big fan of the reading load, LoL! I keep reminding myself that it'll all be worth it when I know what I'm doing at next year's practicum site in regards to neuropsych testing of clients...
Which brings me to my next point. We're all starting to plan for our practicum sites next year and I'm looking at a medical site to round out my CV (the crazy resume/curriculum vita for internship applications). So I'll be sending in applications and having interviews here this month and into next month. Good thing all of my fancy pants and snazzy tops are dry cleaned or washed and pressed ;)
And I'm actually keeping up with my Life is Simple binder- or Lisi, as I call her. It may sound silly but I feel like giving her a name has made her more friendly and less scary or demanding. I adore her :) and I'm learning new ways to utilize her. I add and subtract things that she carries for me, I add little decorations and pretties to her, and I keep her close by almost all the time.
So that's where I am right now. Trying to keep up with school and friends and family. Tomorrow night is Friendly Dinner :D I can't wait!
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